Squirting is the release of clear fluid from the urethra during intense arousal. The sensation right before it feels a lot like needing to pee, and since childhood you've learned to clench at that feeling. Squirting means doing the opposite.
1. Understand the urge
During arousal, fluid collects in the bladder and the tissue around the urethra swells. When it's stimulated, you'll feel heavy pressure and a strong urge to pee. That urge isn't a warning; it's the sign you're close. If you've peed beforehand, you can trust it.
2. Start solo
Many people squirt for the first time alone: no audience, no pressure. Lie back with your knees bent or sit propped up on pillows, on a towel.
3. Warm up properly
Use whatever reliably arouses you, and get properly turned on before going inside. Ten to twenty minutes of build-up is normal. A clitoral orgasm first can make a second one wetter.
4. Stimulate the front wall
Use two fingers, palm facing up, curled toward your belly button, or a curved G-spot toy. Press firmly and rhythmically into the slightly ridged area 4–6 cm inside. Add a wand on your clitoris at the same time.
5. Breathe out and bear down
- When the urge comes, don't stop and don't tense up.
- Breathe out long and slow through your mouth.
- Gently push outward, as if starting to pee.
- Remove your fingers or toy at the peak and keep stimulating outside.
6. With a partner
Tell your partner what worked solo, agree on signals, and ask them to keep the exact same rhythm when you say you're close. A reclined position with a pillow under your hips makes the angle easy. Our partner guide on how to make a woman squirt is the one to send them.
7. Be patient
It can take several sessions, and some bodies release a lot, some a little, some nothing. Treat it as an experiment, not a test. Ironically, that's exactly the attitude that makes it happen.
Sources: Salama et al., Journal of Sexual Medicine (2015); Inoue et al. (2022); Pastor & Chmel, Clinical Anatomy (2022); Hensel et al. (2024); Påfs et al., Sexual Medicine (2024).
Frequently asked questions
Why can't I squirt?
Usually because of a short build-up, too little pressure on the front wall, or clenching at the moment you feel the urge to pee.
Should I pee before trying to squirt?
Yes. It removes the worry that it's urine, and the squirting fluid builds up during arousal anyway.
Can I learn to squirt with a toy?
Yes. A curved G-spot toy combined with a wand on the clitoris is one of the most reported routes.
Does squirting hurt?
No. If anything hurts, ease off, use more lube or stop.
